Every day without fail, above the unit where I’m staying, there will be a lot of shouting, cries, din and noises. The shouts stems from a mother parenting her child or the child just wailing and running around. The mother would shout at the top of her voice, scolding the child on cue e-v-e-r-y day. Even sometimes when its not correcting her little one, its like her normal usual way of speaking is ‘loud’ itself. It’s her way of life
This is what I call an exploder. One who doesn’t reserve their thoughts and just let loose like a machine-gun. I’m sure you have a couple of friends who are like that. Well I think this is bad parenting for one, in my opinion. Looking at the child, looks like they have follow suit in their mother footsteps in being ‘loud’, whiny and needy too
I know its bad being judgmental on someone when they’re doing they know best how raising a child. God knows I’ve not raised one of my own and I applaud all parents out there. The closest I ever came to was babysitting a child and I’ve to admit, it ain’t easy. But I still feel, we’re at a period of time where its an age of awareness. People are more educated, more aware of the various knowledges out there, the options to self-improve oneself is limitless
I know plenty of being an exploder myself. My dad is one. He didn’t reserve his thoughts when I did something wrong as I was a child, nor did his beatings actually made me learn anything. I got tougher even. While my mum is the imploder type. She has all the patience in the world, but when she you hit her button and she reached her ‘boiling point’, hell hath no fury for a woman scorned and on a war-path. Either way, I got even more tougher and rebellious at their different contrasting punishments
So I got the best of both world you could say, but as I grew up, to justify my earlier comment of in this day of learning age at no matter what age you are, I learned to self-improve myself. Clarity, calm and patience are some of the virtues I’ve learned and I’m still learning. If you put negative focus and application on something or someone, it will manifest. Such gratification will only lead to other bad things
Surround yourself with positive thoughts and people. Life is too short to dwell on the nasty things in life. You’ve to be selfish yes, as you need to live the life the way you want it to be, which is being happy at the core, and do not settle for any shortcomings to appease others
