I may sound like a male chauvinist prick by saying this, but I have insecurities dating or in a relationship with someone who is more ‘well to do’.
I think it’s normal for guys to feel likewise. But hey I don’t blurt it out and show it off course. I would be subtle about it and would try my best to shove the thought at the back of my mind when I’m with her.
But in the long run, I feel it would get in the way of the relationship. I know it would for me. I truly need to overcome this mindset.
There was couple of times when I was in a relationship, my girls are working girls at that point of time and I was still schooling. So it just feels sucky knowing you can’t afford to bring her out to places, or at times when your girl foot the bill on the food and such.
I think it’s ego … oh boy we guys are full of it! Hah
It’s just in our genes and that makes who we truly are. We can’t run away from it, but then again it doesn’t mean I need to be all egotistical about it. Like I said, I truly need to overcome this shallow of a mentality.
I think when I was a young punk, I couldn’t handle it well but as I grew older, I’m getting the hang of this. I’m handling it much better now, but I do still feel insecure at times, but not as much these days.
Girls, for all you want, you can now splurge on this Uncle!
Muahaha … oh boy now I feel ‘cheap’
Bro, be thankful your girl earns more than you. At least she won’t bug you to buy you stuff that she can get for herself. She has the money after all.
No need to feel insecure or inadequate. Believe me, when you’re in a marriage, you’ll thank your lucky stars your wife earns more or at least makes as much as you.
hmmm a good point indeed
she can support herself .. yup
ho ho ho.. eh uncle.. ure not the only one.. i was talking to my dad.. and he expressed exactly the same things the same way as u did.. ‘In my younger days i had.. blah blah blah.. but they were all wrking blah blah blah’ i admit my father was a pretty good looking bloke.. but i guess what matters most is if ure comfortable with her if at all in the long run.. and whether she is accepting of u or not.. and people who look at pockets are just plain old materialistic..
i think i’ll be like your dad when i grow older … scary thought?
that is somewhat a scary thought.. hahahaha.. but even if u did turn out to be like my dad.. i somehow think its a good thing.. theres just something about him that i cant explain and you have to meet him urself to understand him..
my dad is AWESOME with a capital A.. he’s had many hurdles to over come.. and i love him more than anybody can imagine!! So if ure halfway there.. u’d be almost as a good as a daddy as he is.. HO HO HO.. (cant give you all the credit kan).. hahahaha
haha … for a moment i scared you there eh!
i wanna be a good daddy too!!
anyone wanna be my daddy’s little girl?
i’ll sayang you very da much :-)
the djs of 98.7fm were just talking about this just now, whether a relationship would last if the woman is more successful than the man. hollywood couples like ethan hawke with uma thurman, ryan phillippe with reese witherspoon and britney with federline, have one thing in common, their relationships didn’t last because the women are more successful. men, tend to be egoistic. i personally think we, men should just put our ego aside if we want the relationship to work.
anyway sha, nice blog! love reading your money making programs $$$ :)
ryan and reese broke up because of a third party, not because she was more successful than her husband. but if its true lah, does it mean the more the woman is successful, the more the husband will stray? :(
i think for any relationship to work, u need two hands to clap. can’t always depend on the guy to mend his ways for something to happen. it wouldnt be fair. there should be a balance.
you know your tabloids eh
thanks for visiting!
why you worry……like moby said, the girl can afford her own shit
just becase a girl earns more than you (or used to in the past), doesn’t make her a better person than you….
just so you know, even if u don’t show the insecurities….a girl will know that ur insecure. body language. so u can’t afford t obuy her stuff or take her out, there are other ways to show that you care and u are just as good with or without money…
and no, i’m not talking about “8ehem* sessions. HAHAHAHH
yup true there what you have mentioned
well maybe for now, she ‘supports’ me … then if i’m stable, its my turn to reciprocate
sessions?! heh
dont need to feel such way lah. no need to feel insecure… just promise that you will pamper ur gf if you ever do well in future.
depends on who ur gf is, if she is calculative, then dont use her money. but if ur gf has a good heart and dont mind spending on you like on food, outings or etc (not like as if she can go poor!!!) then ok lah like that. just be nice to your generous gf.. you can repay her kindness in many manners. be sweet to her. be sincere to her. treasure her, dont chuck her one side and be too workaholic, balance ur time, spend time with her and etc… thats the best thing you can afford to do to say you are thankful to her. at least she feels that whatever she spend on any outings, on you are worth it!
so dont worry too much about this. just pamper her when you got the money money money in future.
yeah treat her right
i guess it doesnt matter if the girl is “more well to do” in terms of education or money.. You should be proud of her actually.. unless she is the kind who always bring the topic up during arguments like if she keep saying,”i earn more money than u, so dont tell me what i can and cannot do!” there are many cases where the woman said such things and that ruin the relationship.
just appreciate her,love her and support her all the way yeah..
I remembered my “friends” criticising my guy cos of our diffrent education levels. I ignored them and did not mind what qualification my guy has or how much money he has, as long as he is hardworking. My guy does not feel inferior too, instead he feels proud of what i want to be, a teacher.actually he was the one who encourage me when my friends menghilang..
well thats the thing .. its from a guy POV. girls won’t think likewise i think
but we guys make do. some make a fuss, some knows how to handle it
for me, i’m coping
whoa!
u found “someone” alrdy??
gd luck!! :)
Yah I was just about to enquire about this too :-)
mums the word
haha what do you think
just dont take advantage of her sudah. bila dah perah semua duit dia, abistu buang dia. i think some guys are guilty of this. anyway, u shouldnt feel so bad about it since she’s willing to pay. unless she nags at u about it… then u need to get a job that pays u well.. pronto… hehehe. but i hope u splurge on her a little, and within ur means. otherwise she wouldn’t want to go out with u anymore!
and btw, when the girl foots the bill, it means she’s looking for a commitment. i mean, not everyone wants to part with their money on a weekly basis for someone right? so i only hope u won’t dumb her after all that she’s done. :( and i hope when u do get enough money, she’ll be the girl u’ll spend on… not the next girlfriend. :)
yeah you can tell from her ‘investment’ on you
take advantage ,,, me? no i won’t
A woman is a man’s better half, so why cannot men accept their woman doing good professionally. I do not think men should have any problems in doing this, but they must not forget that even if their girl earns more, they got to carry her tantrums and sensitivities; after all you are the he-man. Yes, with you, treat her right. And woman must also remember to respect what he has for you.
self-respect of each other needs in the face of one’s insecurities ..good point