Well here’s my observation about girls. It’s just something I’ve been pondering. The thing is, girl like to fix a guy. Mould them, that kind of sorts.
The more messed up he is, the better.
Previously I’ve been in a situation where the girl would rather go for a guy who really has nothing going for him and although I’ve nothing against him, compared to me, I’m more the so called the better prospects … but she would rather settle for him.
The guy has no ambition, he’s bad to her and has a career that even makes a Bangla grass-cutter job look so promising
I can’t really see what she sees in the guy and I’m clueless over her decision to choose him. Is it motherly instinct you think? Is such instinct hard-wired in every female DNA eh? If so, I think I should start acting sloppy and be more messed-up then hur.
Do she think she can turn around his life with her intervention? Oh please, if the guy is a drop-dead loser, it’s really up to him to change how he want to lead his life right
Well … opinions?
Not all females are like that but I think you might have a point regarding the mothering instinct. Nothing like a poor lost boy, makes you want to protect him and mother him. Though, I prefer a guy who can hold his end of an intelligent conversation and not leave you the moment a soccer game comes on.
well true, some guys can hold a conversation and still have no prospects … so still think its a good catch? hehe
well my question is, why girls still go out with jerks when they fully aware that they are
Maybe they have masochistic tendencies and love to be hurt?
could be, its could be they love to have something to tinker with too
or they could be settling for him before holding out for something better?
could be one of many reasons, I’ve stopped wondering whats girls are thinking
i am very guilty of that this very moment..maybe now its time to hope the knight in shiny armour..THE (all in) ONE
i bet he’s somewhere :)
to hope for i mean… =) see lah..belum apa2 so excited alrdy..
Maybe your friend just wants to feel needed.. thats why she wants a guy she can fix.. but then again.. most people say… Love is blind.. these girls dont realise that they are subconciously
dating“mothering” someone… hehehehe.yup for most part i think you got the idea what i’m trying to say … keke
very complicated la
Salaams
Well Im not a fan of “fixing” unless its myself that is..I think its the Snow White Complex..or something like that …Which basically means that a guy who need “fixing” would change for his Snow White and turn good for her
So she mothers him until he changes…I dont know I just listen to my friends and sit and look baffled…
Bah!
that guy is a wuss IMO … unless the change is for good over a bad habit
but i wouldn’t change myself for no one. the lady would have to settle for me or nothing
heh, so your friends got a lot of these stories eh
My friends are from all walks of life and yes do they have stories which can make your head spin…
Personally I feel that you should accept the person the way they are and perhaps if in sync then you will grow together eh macam pokok!
Btw the Snow White Complex Story was from a guy!
exact sentiments
keke, wah thats deep coming from a guy
He is a metrosexual or New Age Sensitive Guy…
Aiyah if jodoh jodoh lah…Susah ah dis this call Love or as I like to call it Lapz…
true .. its all abt jodoh
takde jodoh, jetus kepala la
i like my partner to be as mess up as me… not necessarily about the same things but in a way that his +ve kind of equalises my -ve and vice versa.. and seriously, my husband is my personal shrink.. he gives me pep talks and the fixings i need.. and oh, i definitely don’t want my husband to wear my skirt, even if he fits into it… heh..
haha how did that wear skirt thing came into the pic … oh my now i’m trying to imagine ur hubby in skirt, aahhhh
yeah i understand … yin-yang thingie. compliment each other
hmmm..interesting theory cos as a woman i am also thinking of the same thing when i see or heard my own gal frens goin out with that type of guy… the one tt people mgt just term as “loser”…. well… if you would just like to knw… there are reasons as to why gals mgt go for tt type of gal…
1st, the guy is cute!!! maybe he is fair and good looking and thus what he does or do not do doesnt really matters already.. the main thing for this gal is hey, i have snagged a HOT guy!!!! haha…
2nd, some gals just want to go out with a guy after being out of the dating scene for quite a long time.. after all its just a relationship not a marriage proposal… whether if it will last or nt… well.. lets nt think of tt.. just think of the present.. the future can wait!!!
3rd, sometimes even when there may be 2 guys chasing after the gal… one is the rabbit(lazy, etc…) and another one is the turtle ( the hardworking one)… and the gal mgt actually like the turtle bt the turtle is not doing anything and instead its the rabbit tt ask the gal out.. so i guess the gal just accept the rabbit… even though the turtle has a better future than the rabbit..
4th, and so the gal choose to take the rabbit cos she feels that she might not be good enuf for the turtle who has a better future and she believes deserve someone better..
5th, sometimes when it comes to matters of the heart, one cant find any explanation either…
well… these stories are what i heard from my other gal frens.. i hope its helps…. :)
Oooh an old entry you’re reading.
Well I never pretend to understand woman, and the entry here is just my observation and assumption.
I might be right, I might be wrong … well just venting my rants online.
Your stories do help, I’m always ‘learning’ about woman, but I’ll know I will never understand them.