It’s been awhile since I wrote about matters of the heart. I’m still adamant about my new found policy about not writing about my love life here in blogosphere.
No I won’t blog about whom I’m going out with, cam whoring during dates won’t be posted, etc but I’ll still blog about my ‘feeling-feeling’ lah. Hahaha so mat right!
Well I’m writing a ‘feeling-feeling’ entry now, so don’t complain that I never did hor!
I think to find the ‘right’ woman can be rather tedious, well on my part that is. The problem is, I’ve not started my search yet infact! Not full-time anyway. How do you define a woman to be ‘right’ anyway in the first place?
That’s another issue … Do I need to search anyway? Haiz so ‘mafan’. Where’s fate or good karma when you really need it. I should have just settle with my friend’s recommendation for a Vietnamese Muslim Bride!
Well I do go out on the occasional dates and outings with the ladies but nothing substantial usually comes out of it.
Most of the time, it’s the ladies who has high hopes on me but yours truly Uncle will find some way to ‘ruin’ it. Such a heartbreaker yar. I dunno why, maybe I fear commitment, or taking it to the next level. I’m just happy to ’stay as friends’.
Oh my I can’t believe I’m saying that, to think that really-over-cheesy line has been used so many times over, an excuse to the actual reason, which is, “Hey I’m not interested, buzz off”.
Maybe I’m not really interested to be in a relationship for now and NOT the girl. I think the selection of ladies I’ve been with are fine but I’m just keeping my options open … so don’t buzz off yet ok :-) You know who you are. I know, I know it sounds ’selfish’ but … oh well
One observation or tendency that happens with all my love interest is that, most of my so called short-term relationship just fizzle out after awhile. Don’t you just hate it when that happens.
You’re all excited at the prospect at first sight, you do the usual ‘right’ dating thingie stuff, it seems everything going fine, and suddenly then it just went ‘flat’. Hmm maybe it’s me again, haha.
Maybe I’m still boring yar? I thought I fixed that the last time round. Ok gotta put that on the checklist again.
So what is this entry all about. For fcuk sake, I don’t really know.
It’s just a rant bitch fest kinda entry, no heads, no tails and martini on the rocks, shaken but not stirred … decode that if you’re brilliant!
^5
understand…. understooded.
:-)
:)
nice rare musing.
e kind tt cld go on n on if u get too absorbed talkin abt it. u knew whr n how to stop.
oh, it softens the effect of the previous entry.
yeah previous entry very da shocking! kinda spur of the moment entry .. i just get crazy ideas for blogging
yeah i do write feeling-feeling entry, but not often … see my mood :-)
i totally understand what u mean by the “not interested” thing – hey, i’m another one of them. and potential suitors, more often than not, they say they understand, but actuali, they dun. sum do, but rarely u find sumone who gets e whole picture.
a test of time, yes.
on another note, weneva i get into a feelin-feeling mood, i jez remind myself that ultimately, i wana b able to see myself still gazing into my husband’s loving eyes 40, 50 years down the road.
and then evrything looks so much clearer.
:)
Like i blogged on an earlier entry … it’s a ‘hit & miss’ situation. If it doesn’t work out, well another round of blind date lerrrrrrrrrr
you sure have your ‘feeling-feeling’ aptly handled .. i’m still getting to terms with it … heh
good ‘hunting’!
well dude, i don’t think you need to go ‘look’ for someone ‘fulltime’… if you’re a believer of FATE, the ‘right’ one will come by. it’s not about having just anybody but the best one made for you…
and yes, some girls do get over-enthusiastic and hopeful about going further. i guess it’s innate for them to want something secure. at the same time, i personally think that ladies shouldnt be too hopeful in ’securing’ a r/ship. if it’s meant to be, it will be.
also, some people are actually not ready for a commitment (maybe yourself and myself included)… and we should be allowed the decency to learn about ourselves, learn to love ourselves and THEN learn to love and commit to another person. or else, it would lead to an ENMESHED r/ship whr people simply do NOT have their own life/personality/stand. a r/ship whr one party will be ultra-dependent on the other. that’s not what a r/ship is about.
My take on it is… you should be able to find someone who allows you to be YOU… AND bring out the BEST in YOU…. not to compromise like crap and lose your own self-identity… it’s not about compromise… it’s about collaboration and bringing out that SHINE in one another… you knw..
gd luck tho! u’ll need it. haha. jk. =)
fate. that’s what everyone tells me. but i think fate plus a little intervention on my part is needed. well for me, i believe in that
one thing i hate abt new found interest, is after awhile both of you find out, you’re not suitabl for each other. either one of you won’t bring it out in the open, not wanting to be the ‘bad’ guy, so it drags on for months. i’ve been in that situation … it sucks. haha
yeah thanks for your inpunt. i might not even need luck perhaps? maybe if i get rich online, google will send me a bride? :-p … juz kidding. yupz i’m always on the lookout. ladies watch out for a hot uncle!
she’ll comes when she’s supposed to. Don’t go looking or she’ll never come=) er..physically not the orgasmic way hor..
sounds like a fairy tale story … ok i’ll buy that for now
lols!!
dei!
when the right one fits seamlessly, you wont mind commitments :)
still waiting ….
WOW.. a sensitive-side entry from our resident Uncle here..
Ok bro, I don’t wanna come across as some love doctor but I think one need not consistently and constantly look for THAT someone right. The RIGHT one will come eventually and at times, during moments when you least expect. But it doesn’t mean you sit at home, sit by the phone and wait for a miracle where a lady will call you up and evntually ending up as the right one.
You gotta go out, meet more people I guess. Getting in and out of relationships, be it serious or not, is merley part of the process in finding the right one. The right thing you are doing is keeping your options open. You never know, the right one might be the one you least expect.
Love doesn’t make the world go ’round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
Hahahah.. ‘feeling-feeling’ comment siak!
Ok i get your game plan bro! actually i’m already quite vigil about it in a rilex mat kind of way. i have my methods actually. if anyone interested it’s $5.99 one time payment e-book! hehe …
as you can see above, i hide behind my funny remarks most of the time. i guess that will be my downfall. i’ve been told by the ladies at times to get serious or ship out … and lo and behold, what did i choose … i ’ship’ out at the nearest possible date, haha
ok ok seriously, i’ve gotten more serious as i mature. no more ‘beng’-like or an inconsiderate uncle
i think i’ve alot to learn from ya bro, do drop some more comments & pointers aite
Oh ya.. and compromising comes as a package in a relationship along with commitments. If you can’t compromise and expect the other party to love you for who you are, and accept your habits, lifestyle and whatever for what it is, then I suggest that you request your left hand to be your life partner.
Now that’s unconditional love for you.
eh that’s what my fren told me too! haha
i bet some of the ladies dun get this …. an ‘insider’ comment
Ha!
you get it mah? hahaha
i think so.
My mind has two version of understanding. One sexual, the other – well what the sentence say , it means just that.
Haha.
Looks like you got it
:P
hahahahaha.. ahahahaa.. ok i know im some random.. and its like a LATE reply.. but.. WHO wouldnt get that sentence.. MUHAHUAHUA.. and no.. dont question me.. i grew up wid many brothers.. nuff said!!.. goodluck in ur soul search.. all i can say is that.. yes.. fate does play a role.. but ultimately.. YOU play a role in ur fate.. if u want something.. u initiate your own fate.. comprehende?!
yupz madam! got the message crystal clear!
sometimes you go through that ‘routine’ too often after too much failed attempt , you just give-up la
for now, i’m just happy being single belapok, haha
i got a suggestion: never find ur prospect girlfriend… in the club! that one, only wants one night stand ok. Good boy! and good luck!
good tip … so far i only know a few who found their gf in clubs. and only 2 of them are still attached
fooh, bottom bottom deep deep feel sei uncle sha.
jgn nak emo emo eh. nak emo g carik nemo ah. ok. crap.
nemo pun single macam i
same boat la bro
hehehe, just some words of advice for you uncle sha – don’t make the ladies wait! tak baik u know… >.
Got it! roger!
eh wat telah happened to the rest of my prev comment? alamak, can’t rem what i typed already… :P
anyway sha, good luck with finding the ONE ya? :) dun worry, boys have longer “shelf-life” than girls, so no need to be so ‘kancheong’. (i shld worry more than u, u know, hahaha.) matters of the heart shld be taken slowly and seriously! ganbatte!!
well your prev comment was posted ok :-)
true, when a guy age or form another frown line, he’s deemed more wiser … but for the ladies, hmm well, i feel for ya
your really anime to the last :-) … yes ganbatte!
Ok lah in that case I hold on until you’re ready. hahahahaha. take care ya sha. jgn pening2 sgt pasal bende ni, like you told me before. everything will fall in place :)
yup everything is indeed ‘falling’ …
kesian shah, nanti kita cari kan pompan eh..
haha tak yah lah yanni … i dah ada a few ‘target’ oredi! haha
psst… siapa? bilang ah!!! share ahh!!! takmu lokek ah!!!
ada lah … itu! ituuuuuu
matters of the heart, is always a headache lah…
hhmmmm.. my advice is, just follow your heart…
when the time comes for you to settle with the right one,
she will be there…
i know this area you very a da touchy and clam up
thanks for sharing bro …
whoever she is, i’m sure she will reveal herself
Firstly, make a list of a few (a FEW!!) really important issues you cannot compromise on. E.g. does she have to share your religion, how close to your family would you like her to be, are long-distance relationships okay etc. Try not to set rules for her looks/age/background as, honestly, these things don’t quite matter in the long run.
The ‘right’ partner would be the kind of person you feel that you can trust, almost automatically. Usually you will trust the people whose values are roughly compatible with yours. Also, he/she (haha not implying you are gay, just making this advice available to all) would, whenever there are disagreements (and there always are), settle things with you respectfully.
Aahhh the ‘list’
well i used to do that, but i threw it out of the window when all the ladies i got to know didn’t come close coming up to my expectation or i had to compromise that ‘list’ because of her … or she because of me
but i do agree on your notion that on the ‘trust’ thingie. so far I’ve not felt that in a long time
“not implying you are gay”, haha … how did that come into the picture
i & rudy might or might not go to KL … have to see if my part-time job earns me enough $$moolassss$$