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A recent Malay Muslim Women’s Organisation, PPIS survey found that out of the 300 Malays individuals who are marrying, some 180 of them are divorcees.
The survey concluded that there’s a worrying trend that Malays divorcees are settling down too quickly, in this case within one to two years; without resolving the issue at hand which caused their previous marriages to fail.
And it seems the main cause of such breakdown are in fact financial problems.
For me personally, I don’t really feel the timespan of how fast one gets back on the altar is an issue, but rather than overcoming the reason why their previous marriage failed.
I feel most of these divorcees are rushing into marriages again as it is a mean as a coping response for their need for companionship, and thinking that tying the knot will solve every problem they have; seeking happiness from a state of being and mind that is often unhappy.
It seems to me most remarriages are more of a practical considerations than love.
There’s just too many times I’ve seen people who goes head long into relationship and marriages at the first person who showed any interest in them. That’s not love at first sight, that’s just trouble for me.
One should be quite sure of each other, and be free of their old emotional baggages, so that such failed marriage won’t happen again. It’s been noted in studies that most remarriages ends up in divorce.
On a personal level, that’s why I’ve been single the past five years, as corny as this may sound, I’ve been really soul-searching myself all this time, loving myself before I could love others.
And at each attempt of the dates I had, or getting to know anyone, I always have been critical of my thoughts and feelings for that person, for me the emotional considerations aspects is truly important to the longevity and sanctity of a possible relationship or marriage.
This entry might be an extraordinary assertion on my part, but that’s my beliefs on love and marriages. How about you, what’s you take on the issue at hand?
