Pride and Prejudice

All my life, I questioned myself “Why” on a regular basis

Why can’t I know my calling in life

Why am I unhappy with my someone

Why am I not fast enough

Those sorts of internal conversations which offered me a very different perspective, a sort of judgment implied in the question. The “Why” really refers to me myself and why I can’t be different than I am

But I think it’s an unhealthy notion of thoughts, as it doesn’t give you any answers and will just make a morbid mess of your head, circling the same thoughts over and over again

What I want if life is a fulfilling, passionate lives with warm, loving relationships and trying to find the “Why” in life just takes the focus away from the more important things

Looking back at my life, yes I’ve not achieved many things that I set myself to do but I have faith in time I will. I began to expand the question “Why” to questions that has purpose such as

What have I learned

Why do I love doing this

How can I be different

To a certain extend, it’s a goal setting itself. But goals to one person means setting up yourself towards that fulfillment, while another person finds them restricting

I’m more of the in-between, is there even such a thing?

Well I’ll only set goals if it’s plausible. Call me a realist. I’ve seen many people setting up rigid goals but yet having low self-belief in possible achievement of their goal. What’s the point right. Your goal setting is doomed from the start

I don’t necessarily setup end of the year goals, but mine is more of simple goals such as getting through the day with my routine or plan. For me I’m a planner, I’ve a timetable and I’ll stick to it.

Of course I’ve long term goal too, but not plenty. Maybe targeting a certain profit quota in three months time or getting myself a lovely R&R at the end of the year

I think it’s time of the year where people question and look back at the things they’ve done or not done. Each one of us looking back in life, it can be a valuable lesson. Looking back at your life as a neutral observer analyzing our own expectations and attitudes can be scary as we have to face and re-look at our own attitudes

Do we sabotage our own success or our habits of thinking caused us to live a life filled with stress. Why are we still keeping these in our life.

I believe in order for me to grow and change is to look back, discover why I won’t, or can’t let go of such habits. Make a list of things and remedy them. If it can’t be fixed, then it shouldn’t