When I was young, I have this certain friend. I placed so much hope and trust in him but he always took advantage of me, in terms of money and my time.
I’m the type who don’t give up on a friend easily but he really took the cake. So after years of empty promises, I decided to strike him out of my friend list.
I do bump into him once in a while but I made sure it stop short of exchanging pleasantries. He’ll never fail however to find me when he’s in trouble however. Always asking for money.
Many a times I’ve borrowed him money, he has never returned it, although he promised he would, but has never once. I’ve never asked for it him to return also, ikhlaskan sudah . Some of you might find me dumb, but that’s the sort of things I’ll do for my friends.
Sometimes it’s beyond normal parameters lah, I’ve to work on that issue. It’s just me, it’s how I was brought up and very much resembled of my late mum.
But lately I’ve ignored his calls and request. The last time he used the excuse his brother died and need to go to JB for the funeral. Can you please use a better excuse. He asked for $100. I told him I’ll get back to him. I never did … wakakaka.
He’s even married now with a kid, I wonder how he’s supporting them. I met an old buddy of mine who told me that friend of mine is in deep shite lately. Money related of course. Well I’m not surprised.
Where do these people come from anyway. Don’t they have any shame borrowing money and not return it, nor taking advantage of ‘good’ people.
In my life, I’ve only borrowed money from a few certain close people only, only as a LAST LAST resort. I would rather starve, rather knowing I owe somebody something.
Do any of you have such experiences before?
you are too kind seh.
well…. i think orang macam gini, they are either malas or just tak tau malu.
they can really play the sympathy card for their own benefit or greed.
im glad u’ve wised up and stay clear of this guy.
i’ve not exactly experience this but i have a friend who takes advantage of one’s kindness and ‘wealth’. kalau nak makan… orang belanja. tgk movie ke… tgk plays ke. madang nak free aje. sungguh tak tau malu seh.
i think they cant think beyond their self need
keke everyone has that type of friend. maybe we intro them to each other
Nak duit gi bank! Atau jumpa tai long! :D
I would think carefully before lending money. Giving as a donation where you don’t expect them to return it is ok. Makes things easier. But lending ….. hmmm …. not such a good idea. Especially if the borrower is a friend.
yup as you grow older, you’re more wiser and stingier … hehe
To be able to tolerate such a fren, you truly r one hell of a great person! But sometimes it’s more logical to stop the kindness.
Hi5! … i’ve to think for myself now
oh yes.. I do.. I have a friend, asking me to borrow him bout $1000 or so.. He said the money was for his sick aunt. Then i heard news from my other friends, he has been borrowing thousands of dollars from my jc friends and no returning a single cent. Luckily, I nvr borrow any money to him.. Last thing i heard, he was addicted to soccer bets.. yikes..
Jeez how do we tell if they’re telling the truth or lying eh. sometimes they misuse that trust to con their very own friends. such people!
oh well, i guess it’s fated that we ended up meeting such people.. I changed my blog add. take note ya.. meanwhile, take care!
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i am not a personal banker… so i don borrow money to ANYONE unnecessarily!!! i jus tell them that i dont have money.. usually money is the root of all evil.. at times, you can loose a friend, bcos of money!!! but sometimes, its worth it, if you knw ur friends are those kind who borrow but never return… and those who totally dont earn your trust!!!
that kind of friend, buang sudah!!!!
you’re a better person at handling this .. pls be my personal banker bro
tsk tsk tsk.
ure too kind hor.
the word is gullible :-)
gd thing about me, i wont let any friends take advantage of me when comes to money and i will do the same thing too, i wont borrow money from any of my friends. unless i got no other alternatives, i will borrow from my bestfriend shida, which is so rarely of me asking her. even if i did, i will pay on time. if i say on the 28th, that means 28th you will get it, full amount. money can make ppl blind. so i rather not go to the extend lending someone money if i know they cant pay me back and will definitely piss me off, cos im the type of person that i will really hold on to your words. i hate empty promises.
so for your case shah, tu budak, you cakap dgn dia, abang you mati you nak pinjam 100. 100 je, aku ingatkan kau nak pinjam 1000, biasalah aku kan banker kau dari dulu yang tak pernah charge kau interest dan tak pernah tuntut apa2 balik. ni macam kalau kau pinjam tai-long, kau dah lama kena sebat cukup2, kepala babi mesti ada kat depan rumah kau, pasal kau tak pernah nak bayar balik. ada hati lagi nak pinjam dari aku lagi. sudahlah, stop it ah, aku rimas dgn kau.
you should give him like that lah! learn how to be laser when you have to. only then, ppl like him will be surprise sampai out of breath and wont mess with you the next time.
kanina!
dear shah, its not good to let ppl take advantage of you knowing that they would. at times, you should stand up for yourself and be selfish… dari u kasi duit kat kawan you, and you know the money will surely fly, i would suggest you give that money to the poor ones or donate to masjid, kan lagi best! entah apa dia buat dengan duit you.. i geram ni!!! tak tahu malu eh dia mintak duit lagi! dia ingat you anak banker!
helping is good but you must know who you are helping. me, i will only offer my help or my money without they asking for loan from me, to only certain ppl. they are the lucky ones in my list.
I can’t really imagine you as a person being ‘conned’ .. i think u’re too wary of that & streetsmart. i think you can assess people well and know which fren to choose and rely on. thats something i need to work on la
ok yanni, will do so at ur advice .. tell him off next time
a question for you: if i were to ask money from you, would you lend me?
answer to your question : u know i know. :)
u know but i do not know .. keke :-p
i agree! Money and friends don’t really mix and I pon da kene brapa kali sey dengan “friends” like this. I have a complete asshole that you know as a blogger who’ll borrow small sums EVERYDAY to buy bread for the family katakan then NEVER return. kecik2 looks ok but if you add up and supporting youself like me then hancur la.. your budget over giler sak..
Shit. I think late night studying has morphed me into a minah ahha!!!
I’ll only help those i can trust. and thats like countable in one hand..hrm=)
I’ll teach you how to say no k? haha! I’m getting good at it=P
Stop getting stepped all over! I know you’re really nice, but you’ve got tons of friends and family who deserve your time and efforts more than this guy.
yeah I’m finished with this dude
i do lend money to my close buddies coz i do trust them as much as they trusted me. and to date, thank God, they’ve returned every single cent that they borrowed from me. however, as gullible as i am, i fell victim to those suckers who knows how to take advantage of my good nature.
and as much as i swore to myself not to lend money to suckers anymore, i still keep doing that. when will this change? only time will tell…
hmm mr nice guy like me too … i think we need to be more selective of who we can lend our money
yeah. ive had several experiences before. sometimes i feel disgusted by adults who borrows thousands of dollars but never return a single cent. kalau 10 dollar per month, pon duit jugak pe. dorang tak pikir pe mcm mana orang yang pinjamkan duit tu boleh kasi dorang duit seberapa byk gitu. they think money come from trees ah? lepas tu, muka pon lesap. agaknya malu kot. mana tau, dia ade pinjam duit dari tailong abistu tak mampu nak bayar. dah lah ade bini, ade anak, ade mak tua yang dah nak mampos, dorang pon makan duit. so orang lain tengok situasi dorang, kesian…. takut bunoh diri peh pasal. lepastu cakap terima kasih pon takde.
so… my father advised me never to lend anyone anything (money or whatsoever). hilang kawan takpe. asalkan tak hilang maruah. ok?
your dad is a wise man, i think we all learn from our parents. if they good at handling money, the children will impart that sense of knowing too. well we all learn, don’t we. we’re suckers at one point of time, keke … gitulah kita baru belajar
it is true that some people are shameless and also desperate.. [when they were children, they were probably the type that likes to take other peoples toys and never give it back] but are friends really friends when they treat you this way?! Sometimes you just have to be rutheless.. Yes, ikhlas is ikhlas.. but sometimes.. when you keep pondering, mention it to others or have a tinge of regret.. the complexity of your ‘ihklas-ness’ won’t really matter.. and your intention to help is not really “rewarded” so you might as well draw the line and ask for what belongs to you back.. after all IT IS YOURS to begin with.. even if he may think you are being a scroooge.. OR you lose him or any other persons as friends.. why does it matter? why should you care about them.. what does that say about them?! That they’re not worth the time, money. attention or help.. because an understanding friend would do what is right, and would know what belongs to them and what doesnt.
Who you surround yourself with will reflect on who you are and what you characteristics are. SO please don’t surround yourself in people like that.. it’s bad for your health.. kekekekeke!!
you don’t really see a person true colors after such experiences and for me i’m very much a loyal friend type of person, so that can be good and band in sense.
true being surrounded by such people can be ‘unhealthy’ not just for you but your pocket too, so yeah i’m glad i’ve struck him off the list. i just wish at times i’m in 70′s .. make love, not war, keke
Hi Sha,
This entry strikes a chord with me. Like you, I hate borrowing. I don’t like to owe people money.
I lend money to people at times, but find it hard to get back. I was conned once by a foreigner who was in need of help. He took advantage of my kindness. From then on, I took no shit from nobody anymore.
Do be more cautious and wary in future. Loads of scammers and predators out there.
Rgds,
Jag
yeah man i have that same sort of mentality too these days, you want to borrow, prove it .. also i’ll do a background check asking around before lending
ur experience is with a fren..
Me worse.. it’s my cousin who did tat to me..and another cousin.. He borrowed money frm us.. promised to pay back but nv did..
he keep coming up with excuses like he’s working.. his pay not in.. or worse he said he transfer but transferred to wrong a/c, or bank’s system have error.. blah blah..
So sickening you know.. the amount i lent him is not huge.. $300 only la.. imagine when i met up with him during family gathering..he can pretend nothing happen..then will whisper and say he will return me the money and ask me not to tell anybody.. -_-”
this had been like 6 months already.. i’ve already written this as bad debt.. if he return then it’s extra cash, if nv then no choice lor… i’ll take it as i lost it somewhere..
wah that’s even worse!
to think he has the gall to ask you to keep it quiet, not embarass to ask you $ but too afraid the family will know. no balls!
hmm i do hope he return la, if not you’ve every right to blurt it out. what if he does it to another family member or relatives
my previous comment is gone again.. AHHH!!
well there’s another cousin who loan him a hefty sum of 1 or 2K.. not sure if other cousins are involved but i’m sure he do loan frm frens too la..
Both of us are so sick of his excuses..if he cant pay up just say so la.. stop coming up with silly reasons la.. think we really so naive meh..
irritating lor.. haiz..
Don’t know why he become like tat oso.. either CC bills..if not it’s soccer betting.. Haiz
oops, you’ve to get used to the spam protection babe … i had to implement it, getting too much spam la
your cousin should be shamed!